Honoring Commitments

Promises, promises

Okay, breathe. You’re totally fine, I promise. You are going to be okay. I AM okay.

I find that my life has sometimes felt like a roller coaster with little room to stand on. My life is constantly changing, and my goals ever-evolving. How did I end up here? The opportunity arose and I’ve always wondered if I would like teaching. You see, in college I had this idea of teaching English abroad because I love languages and the idea of inspiring others. But I got caught up doing something else, fell in love, and the moment passed. One of my best friends from high school found it to be her calling and is now teaching in Korea. So when I had a chance, I made sure to give it a try instead of letting my voice of doubt creep in.

So how was it? Exhausting to say the least but I am not regretting despite the times I simply wanted to give up. Looking back, I have learned so much, and worked really hard to inspire that motivation in my students. Did it work? For some, it did and for others… well, let’s say I tried almost everything and I hope they find that spark.

 

What I have learned this year as a Teacher and life before then:

 

1/ Most of Life isn’t a perfect example of  ’stable’.

It’s always changing and you are (hopefully) changing with it. You have to make sure that you find your inner peace, breathe a lot and face the day with a brave face. Always. I tend to be overly anxious so routines and family support were essential to making it through.

Last week, I started going through TEDtalks again, and came across this talk. She talks about how the concept of body language can really shape the way that others and yourselft see you. “Fake it, till you become it.” Love it and the best 18 minutes of TV watching time I’ve had in a while.

Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are

 

2/ Take failure in strides.

Some things may work, other things may not. Don’t let a single one get to you. and make sure to recognize your successes. I had good days, and really bad days. Great days and even worse days. Most of what I did in the classroom was a mixture of successes and failures. I asked other teachers around me how they dealt with it because and that is what every single one of them told me in their own way. You’re not perfect but you still need to love yourself and keep trying. The only real failure is if you stop trying altogether.

 

3/ Honor you word.

Honor your commitment to yourself and to others. The best way to show appreciation is to actually do the things you say you are going to do. What I have been trying this summer is follow what I have listened from the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I only ended up listening to the first part but I listened to it so many times and actively tried to integrate it in my life.

The one thing that stood out to me was to work on your circle of influence and the the things that you can actively change. And so came about the idea of working on commitments I have made with my close friends and family. I am not good at it but I try to work on it everyday.

So….

Right now, I am plagued with decisions that need to be made and honestly, need to be made sooner than later. Big life decisions are like the monster under the bed: they have a way of sneaking up on you, scaring the crap out of you, then finding its way of hiding under the bed so you  don’t really think about it until the next night. So I have decided to take it one day at a time and finish up on things I’ve promised to people.