3 Reasons why you shouldn’t resent your Job

Photo by Hamed Masoumi

Photo by Hamed Masoumi

I have had quite a few jobs throughout my college and post college life. Many of them, were less than stellar, others downright agonizing. I constantly used to ask myself, ‘Why me? Why didn’t I just find my calling and give it my all earlier?’

Months would drag by and those questions would sometimes turn into bitter resentment towards my work. Others around me would join in the chorus and my negative attitude towards work would simply fester. The moment someone would ask, I would jump into a tirade about how everything under the sun was absolutely done wrong.

But you see, this isn’t the attitude that my colleagues and me  should have taken. Even though I was always commended in my performance evaluations, I knew deep down I wasn’t doing my best. I could do better. And when I talked to people who were older and (sometimes) wiser, I realized that it was affecting me in more ways than one.

The last couple of jobs, I have had a different outlook to my jobs. Yes, not everything was perfect but it was a job, it helped give my husband, puppy, kitties and I shelter and despite some of the monotony, I actually learned quite a bit. There were good days, and great bosses and occasional perks for a job well done.

So here are my top 3 reasons why you shouldn’t resent your job:

1. It provides a roof over your head, a.k.a. you’re not in survival mode. For those you don’t know what survival mode is, it simply means that you feel like you’re doing everything in your power just to make it through the day. I had times like this in college where I managed to live off of less than $50 a month, no car, and the generous support of fellow friends. It’s not fun and I don’t wish that on anyone. It also prevents you from thinking beyond the day to day

2. Even if may not be in your field, you’re still learning. When I was younger, I thought I knew everything (I think everyone’s younger self does). But in every job that I have had, I have learned something. There was one job that I had that helped me write a better resume to apply to different positions in the organization. Another job that I had that helped overcome my awkwardness when I talk (I’m naturally shy) and help project my voice better and speak clearer. Even if there wasn’t necessarily a learning opportunity, after I learned the ropes, I always found ways to improve my work and work environment.

3. It affects your performance in all aspects of life. Being resentful or bitter/frustrated has a way of seeping into all aspects of your life. You tend to be snappy and ungrateful for the things that you do have. And you tend to exude this whole miserableness to everyone around you (which in turn, makes family and friends miserable too). Because of this misery, you stop doing the things that you do love and become even more miserable (go figure).

There are times when the job is really easy to hate or you have a boss that is absolutely awful, but don’t let a bad situation ruin everything in your life. If you allow it to get to you, then it will make it harder to move to something that you are passionate about.

So the point that I am getting at is this: don’t let one bad job define who you are as a person. Take the good and dismiss the bad. Take the job, learn from it, and if you hate it, start taking the steps to move on. But if you get caught up in the hate, the drama and the misery, chances are it will be harder to move on.

Are there aspects of your job that you tend to resent or get angry about? What can you do to prevent from letting it get to you?